Why are women always saying “sorry”?
I used to be the girl who, when hearing about the unequal treatment of women in the workplace, would just shrug it off and dub it over-sensitivity. I’d think to myself, “How can women be inferior in the workplace, in 21st century America, amongst educated, polite, civil people?”
But today I realized that as a woman (especially a young woman) working at a big financial corporation: I say “sorry” a whole darn lot – 99% of the time when it isn’t my fault, and often even to the people I am in charge of managing.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m always one for being gracious and kind, even when someone doesn’t deserve it or when I’m not in the wrong. And “sorry” is most definitely warranted when I do something wrong.
But today, I apologized so many times that a fellow female coworker came straight to the point and asked me, “Why are you sorry?” I tried to answer this question, and found I couldn’t.
So today, I tell myself (and my fellow sisters): Be gracious, be kind, be civil. Admit it when you are wrong. But mean what you say, and don’t say what you don’t mean. Stand up for and have confidence in yourself (in a lovingly and gracious manner).